Ever feel overwhelmed by all the thoughts and ideas racing through your brain? I have had a list of about a million things on my mind this week and have had no time to focus further than the one that needs the most immediate attention at any given moment — the daily deadlines at work, the one year photo album I had to finish in time for Corban’s first birthday(!!) party, scrounging just enough food out of the empty fridge to satisfy current hunger needs (truly pathetic). I opened a fresh Moleskine notebook yesterday just to dump a bunch of one-liner ideas for work into it – otherwise I would have risked losing them in the jungle of my brain.
I realized today that despite the dizzying pace of my life these past days, weeks, months, I am enjoying it. I don’t feel like I have enough time at home, or at work, or with friends, or with Corban, or with Peter, or by myself – but to make more time for one would mean cutting time with another. What a conundrum.
I will go with the theory that more time spent with any of the above would make that time less valuable. Maybe my current situation actually is ideal. (OK, more time with Corban would definitely be better, but let’s just be positive for now.)
Speaking of time… that post about our predictable schedule I mentioned that I had started writing right before C got sick and our schedule went out the window? Here it is.
I wrote this typical day out at about 11 months. It’s changed slightly since then. It’s always changing slightly. That’s one reason I have been wanting to write this post – to capture a moment in time. I also wanted to write it because I love reading other bloggers’ day-in-the-life baby posts. It’s fun to look both forward and back at babies’ routines and needs at different ages.
Here’s what a typical workday
is was [at the time of writing] like for me and Baby C.
4 a.m. Corban wakes up and I nurse him. No, he still isn’t always sleeping through the night (though some days he does), but a quick 4 a.m. nursing session is barely a burden at all anymore (sometimes it is at 2, which is tougher). While a bit of CIO (cry it out) has worked for us for naps, neither Peter nor I have the energy to do it at 4 in the morning, so, whatever, I feed him.
6:30 a.m. C is up for the day. Peter gets up and brings him into bed with us and I nurse him while lying down and trying to get some more shut eye. I love this part of the day! If he ate a lot at 4, it will be quick though. We try to keep him entertained in bed with a pacifier and snuggles for as long as possible.
6:45/7 a.m. By this time, bed usually isn’t cutting it for him, so we let him crawl around on the floor of our room and explore while we attempt to sleep for a few more minutes. We are not morning people.
7:15/30 a.m. We change Corban’s diaper and I hustle into the shower while he plays in our room. He also loves pulling things off the shelves in my closet and opening the bathroom drawers or playing with the scale.
7:40 a.m. I get ready while playing with/entertaining Corban. Peter showers and gets ready.
8 a.m. I get C dressed, then it’s breakfast for us both. Followed by more of me getting ready mixed with some playtime.
8:30 a.m. Our nanny arrives and takes over Corban duties while I pack my lunch and update her on anything newsworthy. Peter retreats into our office to start his work day.
8:40 a.m. I’m off to work (ok, usually it’s a few minutes later). Corban and our nanny’s son start to play, play, play (or eat breakfast if I didn’t have time to feed him).
9:30 or 10 a.m. After some quiet reading time and a pacifier, it’s nap time, usually for an hour and 15 minutes at least.
11:30 a.m. Right after his nap, he has a bottle of breast milk. Then the three of them go for a long walk – about an hour – and sometimes stop at the park or the library. Or they play inside.
12:30 p.m. Pump break for me. I can be in and out in about 15 minutes, but I try to take this time to relax in the middle of the day and not rush. It’s my Google Reader (on iPhone) time.
12:30 p.m. Lunch for Corban. Then it’s more playtime (our nanny loosely structures some activities for them) or a walk if they didn’t go before lunch.
2:30 p.m. Nap time for C, or at least soothing time so he can start napping around 3.
3:30/4 p.m. Corban wakes up from his nap (this is a shorter nap usually – like 45 minutes to an hour) and has a bottle of breast milk.
4:30 p.m. Peter is off work and makes the long commute from the office to the family room to take over Corban duty. Our nanny leaves and Peter and Corban spend some quality time playing and calling me at work to see when I’ll be home.
5 p.m. I try to wrap up at work if possible, but I’m usually not heading for the door till it’s at least…
5:30 p.m. I collect my junk (why do I seem to cart so much with me to and from work each day?), grab the pumped milk and pump parts from the lactation room (I leave the pump there during the week) and head home.
6 p.m.* Reunited with Snuggleface! He is overjoyed to see me. We play on the floor for a few minutes.
6:15 p.m. Dinner time for Corban. Peter and I usually eat too while he’s in the high chair.
6:40 p.m. More playtime and some dinner cleanup.
6:55 p.m. PJs on, some quiet play or books in the nursery, then nursing and sleep for Little Boy.
7:05 p.m. Corban is down for the night. Commence adult time to tackle to-do lists, more work, relax and prepare to do it all again tomorrow.
*The days that I get home late (after 6) from work are especially painful. Even just 20 minutes late can cut my Corban time in half for that night. Then I find myself missing him after he’s asleep. Thankfully, this grind is broken up by my strategic use of vacation days, which I’ve been sure to use spending my time 100% focused on my baby C.